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Grey's Anatomy: Love the One You're With

The survivors from the crash are asked to make an almost impossible decision that will affect the rest of their lives. Meanwhile, tension grows between Jackson and April after they're forced to work together, and Alex tries to restrain himself with one of the interns.

Episode Info
Episode number: 9x3
Airdate: Thursday October 18th, 2012

Director: Debbie Allen
Writer: Zoanne Clark

Alternate Airdates:

AU (Seven) Oct 23, 2012
UK (sky LIVING) Nov 21, 2012

Guest Stars
Camilla LuddingtonCamilla Luddington
As Dr. Jo Wilson (Intern)
Gaius CharlesGaius Charles
As Dr. Shane Ross (Intern)
Jerrika HintonJerrika Hinton
As Dr. Stephanie Edwards (Intern)
Meeghan HolawayMeeghan Holaway
As Representative for the Doctors
Steven CulpSteven Culp
As Dr. Parker (Minnesota Hospital Staff)
William DanielsWilliam Daniels
As Dr. Thomas (Minnesota Hospital Staff)
Boo ArnoldBoo Arnold
As Mr. James (Father of Emery James: Leg Injury Patient)
Christopher MichaelChristopher Michael
As Ray (Man Who Shows Derek the Wreckage)
Matthew DownsMatthew Downs
As Frank (Fiancé of Roxie Meyers: Skin Removal Patient)
Ned VaughnNed Vaughn
As Representative for the Airline
Rebecca LowmanRebecca Lowman
As Mrs. James (Mother of Emery James: Leg Injury Patient)
Skyler DaySkyler Day
As Emery James (Patient: Leg Injury from Boating Accident)
Stefanie BlackStefanie Black
As Roxie Meyers (Patient: Excess Skin Removal and Hernia Repair)
Tony MirrcandaniTony Mirrcandani
As Pop-Pop (Patient: Enlarged Heart)

Co-Guest Stars
Luke GanalonLuke Ganalon
As Chuckie (Grandson of Pop-Pop: Enlarged Heart Patient)
Neena BidashaNeena Bidasha
As Rina (Grandaughter of Pop-Pop: Enlarged Heart Patient)
Veena BidashaVeena Bidasha
As Tina (Grandaughter of Pop-Pop: Enlarged Heart Patient)
Main Cast
Ellen PompeoEllen Pompeo
As Dr. Meredith Grey
Justin ChambersJustin Chambers
As Dr. Alex Karev
Patrick DempseyPatrick Dempsey
As Dr. Derek Shepherd
Chandra WilsonChandra Wilson
As Dr. Miranda Bailey
James Pickens, Jr.James Pickens, Jr.
As Dr. Richard Webber
Sara RamirezSara Ramirez
As Dr. Calliope "Callie" Torres
Kevin McKiddKevin McKidd
As Dr. Owen Hunt
Jessica CapshawJessica Capshaw
As Dr. Arizona Robbins
Sarah DrewSarah Drew
As Dr. April Kepner
Jesse Williams (2)Jesse Williams (2)
As Dr. Jackson Avery
Sandra OhSandra Oh
As Dr. Cristina Yang


The episode begins and the plane crash survivors are in a meeting with the lawyers from the aeronautics company, which is offering a settlement for damages. Derek, Meredith, Callie and Hunt pass the offer around. Cristina says, "Wow, that's a lot of money," when Hunt tells her about it over the phone. They need an answer in three days. In order to settle, all the survivors have to agree. Derek and Meredith wonder whether they should settle. The next day Meredith asks Alex not to stay at her old house anymore. April is back. In Minnesota, Cristina is back from her mandated break and reports back to her boss. He assigns her to work with Dr. Thomas again, saying he'll believe she's a team player when he sees it. ..

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Episode Notes
Ratings: 9.69 Million Viewers

ArtistSong TitlePlayed When
Benjamin Francis LeftwichWon’t Back DownCallie and Arizona in the Shower, Closing Scenes
DoloreanWhat Could You Do?Meredith Realizes April and Avery Slept Together
The HeavyWhat Makes a Good Man?Cristina Forces Smile, Bailey Complains to Webber
Icky BlossomsHeat LightningOpening Scenes, Seattle, Meeting, Settlement Offer
Julia StoneIt’s All OkayPatient Looking at Her New Body for the First Time

Episode Quotes
Meredith: (opening voiceover) Surgeons don't compromise. We defy death. We exceed perfection. We operate for seventeen hours straight if we have to. We aren't built to settle. But that doesn't mean we won't.

Meredith: Hey, Alex? Why did an intern just give me a compliment on the crown mouldings in my empty house? Are you still sleeping there?
Alex: Chicks like it better than the on-call room.
Meredith: Okay, that's disgusting.

April: I was giving the pigs their breakfast, and I turned around, and there is Dr. Hunt, offering me my job back. He didn't tell you guys?
Meredith: Did anyone else see Dr. Hunt in the barnyard?
Alex: What if he appeared to you? Was he glowing and all?
Jackson: (walks in, notices April) April?
Meredith: Hunt hired her back.
Alex: We think. Might have been Jesus.

Callie: Stop sleeping with your co-workers. It ruins them.
Alex: I slept with you.
Callie: And I no longer sleep with men!

Meredith: So, Alex is a diseased man-whore, again, and April Kepner is no longer a virgin. Wow. I missed a lot with that plane crash.
Jackson: Yeah, you missed a lot. Chief banged my mom.
Meredith: What? The... Owen banged-
Jackson: -Webber! Webber, Dr. Webber banged my mom.
Meredith: Oh. Oh Oh my God
Jackson: Yeah, I know.
Meredith: Well, if it makes you feel any better, he banged my mom too
Jackson: That makes me feel worse.

Callie: (after Alex is rude to an intern) What's your problem?
Alex: My problem is I have fourteen patients on my service, the new peds attending is an idiot and I need help. So until your wife comes back to the hospital, I need my interns to actually work.

Jackson: The Chief banged my mom.
Meredith: What? The... Owen?
Jackson: I mean Webber, Dr. Webber banged my mom.
Meredith: Oh... oh... Oh my god!
Jackson: Yeah, I know...
Meredith: Well, if it makes you feel any better: he banged my mom too.

Callie: I'm coming to get you, you're going to this meeting, it starts in twenty minutes! (looking for her) Arizona... Where are you? (she founds her lying on the bathroom floor) Are you okay? Where is the nurse?
Arizona: I didn't like her, so I fired her.
Callie: Oh, great, great. It's just... Why are you...?
Arizona: I thought, that I could get to the toilet on time by myself. Apparently I was wrong.
Callie: Did you fall, are you ok?
Arizona: Do I look ok? I'm sitting in a pool of my own urine!
Callie: I'm putting you in the shower.
Arizona: No, just get out!
Callie: Hey! Do not talk to me that way!
Arizona: Please, please, get out!
Callie: Arizona...
Arizona: Did you hear me? You did this! I can't even pee by myself!
Callie: Yeah and that's a problem because you now stink! This bathroom stinks! I'm not sharing my home with somebody who smells like this!
Arizona: (screaming) Get of off me!
Callie: (puts Arizona in the shower while crying) I have nowhere else to go. This is my life now too!
(Arizona looks at her and realizes that she's trying to help her and that she is suffering too.)

Meredith: (closing voiceover) When we follow our hearts, we choose to not settle. It's funny, isn't it? A weight lifts. The sun shines a little brighter. And, for a brief moment at least, we find a little peace.

Cultural References
Episode Title: Love the One You're With

Love the One You're With is the title of a song originally sung by Stephen Stills.

Episode References
Season 8, Episode 24: The remaining plane crash survivors are in a meeting with lawyers to settle with the plane company over the pain crash in 8x24 "Flight".

Season 9, Episode 2: Arizona's leg was amputated because of infection in 9x02 "Remember the Time".

Season 8, Episode 22: April is "re-virginizing" herself after having slept with Jackson while they were in San Francisco for their oral boards in 8x22 "Let the Bad Times Roll".

Season 9, Episode 2: Chief Hunt re-hired Dr. April Kepner at the end of 9x02 "Remember the Time".

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