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  Tuesday, May 15th 2007 9:06 am  
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My sister, who now controls the family money, just told my Dad to pay me $8,000 to go away. I guess they both really want me gone. I’m really at a loss on this. I’m just here (really living here) to help my Mom.
 
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nishikaze

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Posted on Tuesday, May 15th 2007 10:32 am 
Why would your Dad want you gone? What the hell is up with your family? Talk about ungrateful.
 
Me

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Posted on Tuesday, May 15th 2007 1:18 pm 
There may be a method to their madness. Let's see, how can I put this gracefully...maybe they noticed that your life revolves around them and hope that you would begin living more for yourself? Both you an they realize that they won't be around forever and feel you need to start preparing to live life without them. As tough as that is, it unfortunately happens to everyone eventually. Hang tough buddy
 
FuManchu

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Posted on Tuesday, May 15th 2007 2:01 pm 
I have no clue what is going on, but I think my sister just wants me out of the picture. I’m here, and she is 2000 miles away. I think she’s worried about me having too much influence over Dad. I don’t give a crap about influence; I just want to take care of my Mom.

To Me (not me, but Me ) – realize my Mom is pretty well gone. A good visit is one where she remembers my name, or who I am. She needs help eating, as dementia patients tend to lose interest in eating (this info from one of her doctors). My Dad asked me to leave my job and move in with them (before we institutionalized her) ; then asked me to move with him to another city (to Mom’s nursing home location). Now my sister shows up and says it’s time I go.

I’m at a loss.
 
LordOpie

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Posted on Tuesday, May 15th 2007 2:17 pm 
wow, that sucks!

Have you asked you sister who will take care of them if you left? Have you asked point-blank why she wants you gone.

All I can say is follow your heart, period, exclamation mark.

I quit my job and took care of my dad for four months when he was dying of cancer. It hurt my career and was a factor in my divorce I regret nothing since I love my dad very much. If my sister told me to stop, I'd tell her to go fvck herself. As it was, my sister was grateful for what I did.

Sorry bro for your pain.
 
LordOpie

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Posted on Tuesday, May 15th 2007 2:19 pm 
oh, forgot a very critical thing...

who has Power Of Attorney over your parents? If no one, get your dad to secretly sign over power to you for him and your mom.

Then tell your sister that you have PoA and it's got nothing to do with money/assets but trying to make the end of their lives as peace, happy, and stressfree as is possible.

Get it done as you don't want a fight with your sister in the court system.
 
FuManchu

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Posted on Tuesday, May 15th 2007 6:19 pm 
Nope. My sister is in complete control now.
 
mayka
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Posted on Thursday, May 17th 2007 9:31 am 
I can understand (or try to) your sister's reaction -- ok, she might be jealous / greedy / afraid of your influence, but your dad should see you are a good child and you have put your life on hiatus for him and that she has done nothing at all for them.
 
FuManchu

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Posted on Thursday, May 17th 2007 2:35 pm 
No, my sister has handled my Dad’s investments and done well for him. Dad has always put me down and ridiculed me. My mother has always loved me, so I have really just sacrificed all for her.

Yes, I’m a momma’s boy. The youngest of the kids
 
mayka
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Posted on Friday, May 18th 2007 2:09 am 
So your dad values money higher than the sacrifices of a child.
 
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