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  Wednesday, November 24th 2010 4:17 am  
» love stinks
Mood: bummed
I should have learned my lesson by now...but ever the optimist, forever the idiot, I keep trying. Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Well...I'm a lunatic a nut job. Time and time again I open my heart wide, give my love, affection and attention freely only to get burned. and do I learn? No. Ever the fool and hopeless romantic I do it all again hoping for a different result. Hoping that one time I'll open my heart and get the same in return. Instead I end up broken, betrayed and alone. They same time heals, and it does but it also breeds stupidity because weeks, months, years later I'm back right where I started...crazy, in love, and hoping against the odds that things will be different this time.

I'm somewhere in the middle now...some kind of gray (grey?) nebulous whirl of uncertainty. Wondering if I'm holding on to hope, stupid and naive. Wondering if I should cut and run...throw in the towel, give up and resign myself to failure and loneliness?

Is it really better to have loved and lost?
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Posted on Wednesday, November 24th 2010 7:04 am 
Keep your head up! At age 20 I can't give you very much experience based wisdom, but I can tell you that giving up is the worst thing you could do. You have no way of knowing what the future holds, but if you give up, you'll never find out what could've been.

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Posted on Wednesday, November 24th 2010 8:23 am 
I think I'm in the same basic situation. Not the recent break-up part but the love stinks part. My life is a long series of this. I dunno, I guess I'm not cut out for the relationship department. Not for lack of trying, either, I just think there's something wrong with me. I've got a few people that I care about or that care about me, but there's no real closeness or intimacy.

Rather than fighting it I'm just trying to accept the isolation. Online communication helps maintain the sanity. The days are usually fine, but some nights I'll think about my situation while lying there in the dark and it pretty much sucks. I imagine I'll be fine some years down the road when this is all second-nature to me.

As for your post, I don't know. I'm probably the last person who should give advice on this subject, but FWIW, I would say stop grabbing at straws. You've spent time in a relationship, now spend time with yourself. Not as a punishment, but a reward. Once you learn about you, the rest will hopefully fall into place.

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Posted on Thursday, November 25th 2010 5:50 am 
Burst, I love the Forever Alone guy. Nate's the second to last person you want relationship advice from. I'm the last. And so I shall give you none.

So basically I didn't help you at all.


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